You can survive this. Even this. Even the thing that seems unsurvivable.
Every day, I work with women just like you. We sit together in my office and speak about the pain and struggle of the loss of a baby. We process the thoughts and feelings that come with infertility. Together we search for hope and move towards healing.
Let me be clear: therapy will not help you to "get over it". At least, not in the way others mean when they say that phrase. The truth is, we never "get over" the death of a loved one. We never "get over" the reality that we cannot have a baby. What we aim for in counseling is to find a way to make some sense of the pain- to see if we can connect to some kind of meaning. We aim to lessen the pain. Ultimately, the goal is to find some sense of peace and a path to moving forward.
Moving forward doesn't mean forgetting. You will never forget. You will never be fully "over it". But, you can live a meaningful life. You can find a place in which the pain feels bearable and in which you can get out of bed and face the day.
The process isn't fast. It isn't easy. But, it is doable.
In our sessions together, I will offer you a safe space. I will provide emotional validation and support. I will listen to you. I will encourage you to explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences. I will share with you information about approaches that have helped other women. I will provide feedback about what might assist you.
I will help you to carry the pain.