Pregnancy Loss
Despite the fact that one in four pregnancies will end in a miscarriage or loss, the loss of a pregnancy feels like an isolating experience. This is particularly true given the reactions many women get from friends and family members: well-meaning people say insensitive things like "It was for the best" or "you can always try again." These misguided attempts at comfort serve to make you feel like your grief is being erased.
Mental Health and Grief specialists often refer to this as a disenfranchised grief experience- despite the realness and intensity of the grief experience to the woman, her partner and family members, there is still a general societal sense that we should just "get over it" and "try again."
If you or your partner are struggling with the intense sadness over the loss of your baby, it is important that you find some support. Find an online community of others who have experienced this loss, or reach out to a therapist with experience supporting women dealing with miscarriage and other pregnancy losses.
Resources
Star Legancy Foundation- information, phone support and videoconfrence support groups for famliies dealing with stillbirth http://starlegacyfoundation.org
Three Little Birds:pregnancy and infant loss information, resources and local support group search (PA, DE and NJ) http://www.threelittlebirdsperinatal.org
UNITE Grief Support After Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death: in-person support groups (PA and NJ)
Reconceiving Loss: Information and online support and workshop forum for those sufferingf rom a pregnancy loss or infant death https://reconceivingloss.com
Books
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah L. Davis
Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream by Cherokee Isle and Linda Hammer Burns
Miscarriage: Women sharing from the Heart by Shelly Marks and Marie Allen
Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A complete sourcebook for women and their families by Rochelle Friedman and Bonnie Gradstein
Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death by Sherokee Ilse
Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss by Kim Kluger-Bell